Do You Have Anxiety and What To Do To Get Help

This post is sponsored by Kaiser Permanente Orange County but all thoughts and opinions are my own.

The holidays are behind us and most of us are starting the new year with goals and resolutions. There’s usually excitement, anticipation and hope for a better year once January hits. But what about for those who don’t have a rosy outlook on life. Those who are shrouded in a cloud of depression and anxiety?

If you google Postpartum Depression, you will find a lot of articles about it but there doesn’t seem to be as much about Postpartum Anxiety. It involves feelings of worry about your child’s well being that are usually unfounded.

I was able to speak with Dr. Elsa Lee of Kaiser Permanente Orange County to help shed some light on anxiety and when to seek help. View Post

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How a Stay-at-Home-Mom Should Manage Stress

This post is sponsored by Kaiser Permanente Orange County but all thoughts and opinions are my own.

Being a stay-at-home-mom can be such a rewarding experience but there’s also a lot of stress that can come with it. Now, if you’re not a mom or if you work outside of the home, you might wonder what kinds of things a stay-at-home-mom could possibly get stressed out about. They seem to have the life- not having to work and staying home. How much stress could they possibly experience? I used to think the same thing- that they had it made until I become a mom and made the choice to stay home with A. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with those that work or those that choose to not have kids. I’m not minimizing their level of stress but the kinds of stress a stay-at-home-mom experiences is quite different than someone who works outside the home. View Post

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Seven Things I Learned After Two Miscarriages in One Year

I originally wrote this post for Hellobee when I briefly blogged for them in 2015. Then I reposted it to my blog but I made the post private because I wasn’t ready to post about my miscarriages. When you write something and put it on the Internet, it stays there forever and I wasn’t sure if this was something I wanted out in the open for the whole world to see. But I realize that the topic of miscarriages is such an important one. It’s such a taboo topic, especially in the Asian community. I hope by sharing my story and the things I’ve learned from my miscarriages, it will help someone else who has gone through it or might go through it in the future.

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Our Story- Strike 1

Hubs and I were married in 2009. We wanted to wait at least a year to enjoy being married before we really tried to have kids despite the fact that I was already 34 at that time. In the back of my mind, my biological clock was ticking but I didn’t want to rush into having a baby just because of my age.

After our first year of marriage, we started “trying” to have a baby but we didn’t get pregnant until January of 2011. You can imagine what we were feeling when we saw that “pregnant” sign on the pregnancy test. We were so excited!  But I was also fearful of things going wrong. I tend to be a worrywart and have fear of the unknown. I was also scared of miscarrying but I tried to do all the right things like take my prenatal vitamins and go to all my OB appointments. Everything seemed to be progressing nicely. I had a 7 week ultrasound where I heard the heartbeat so I felt things were going well and that we would be parents in October of that year. Little did I know that just a few short week, one of the greatest heartaches of my life would happen.

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Three Tips for an Introverted Mom

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Are you an introvert or an extrovert ? I never knew what that was until I took a psychology course in college. That’s when a little light went off in my head and I came to the realization that not only was I shy, but I also needed time by myself in order to feel rejuvenated and rested. Once I got married, it became even more apparent that I needed my own space and just time to myself.

My husband is an extroverted introvert. He can talk to strangers on the train or store and chat with them about anything, but he likes his time alone/quiet time to recharge. I, on the other hand, am a bit more shy. Sometimes I feel awkward in new surroundings and with people I don’t know, but I am better at adapting now that I am older and don’t feel like an awkward penguin in the corner of the room. View Post

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Me Before Her

She's stuck betweenwho she is,who she wants to be,and who she should be.

(Quote from Pinterest.)

If you told me about a year ago, that I would be signing myself up for a blog conference, I would have laughed at you. You see, I’m naturally a shy person and the thought of being in a room full of strangers scares me.

Back in the days of Xanga, I used to write a lot. I would write weekly recaps of Sunday sermons and church activities, vacations, and daily life. If I really loved something, I would tell everyone to go buy it. If there’s something fun or interesting to do, I would tell you about it. I recently went back and reread some posts and boy, did I write a lot. But this was all before getting married and starting a family.

I love being married and I love having my daughter- but some where along the way, I’ve lost myself. The me who loved to create things. The me who loved to share ideas with others. The me who loved to spend time with people. The me before her. This in no way means I don’t absolutely adore my daughter or the life I live. I actually love where I am in life but now that the fog of being a new mother has lifted and my daughter is gaining more and more independence, I need to find myself again and make time for me.

The past three years has been so life changing and rewarding. I love my sweet A and how she looks to me for everything but I’ve also been craving something more– something just for me and NOT feeling guilty about it. I’ve been blessed to be able to stay at home with her and care for her every need. Not all moms get to do that. My own mother worked all the time while I was growing up so I don’t take the fact that I was able to stay home for granted.

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